Blogpost #6: Friend zone

Being in a situation where one falls in love with a friend but he/she only sees him/her as a friend. In Wikipedia, Friend zone refers to a situation wherein one person wishes to be in a romantic relationship while the other does not.

Guy: Can we be more than just friends?

Girl: Sure, bestfriends! :)

Guy: No, I mean more than that.

Girl: OK, Super best friends :D

I've read this conversation in the internet before. This sucks right? I have this friend he really loves this girl, he confessed to her that he loves her but the girl wants them to be just friends? No. The girl wanted them to be BEST OF FRIENDS. That got to hurt. And, the guy said "If being her best friend will still let me be with her then I'll do it."

In the article Nice Guy Syndrome And The Friend Zone by Alisse Desrosiers, she says that friend zone is a bullshit, misogynistic, make believe land that nice guys come up to demonize women for not wanting to date them. This is a way for them to let the women think they are the one that got away.

Desrosiers says, "You don't deserve the dirt on my shoe if you don't treat me with respect." This goes to all men, so what if she friend zoned you that doesn't mean that you won't meet other people. Like what they've said "There are plenty fish in the sea." Think before you talk so women won't think you're a douche bag.

I read an article entitled Tales From the Friend Zone: REALLY Just Friends? by Dr. Gary Lewandowski. They conducted a study in which students came to the lab with a  opposite-sex friend, and they answered questions about each other. The questions were focused how much they were attracted to him (or her), the desire to date each other and their attraction to each other.

What they found? First, they found that young adults were more attracted to their female friends than females were attracted to their male friends. Second, Males' attraction to female isn't changed by relationship status. Lastly, Males overestimated female friend's interest, while females underestimated their male friend's attraction but accurately gauged the male friend's desire to date them.

According to Lewandowski, "Being attracted to someone does not mean that two people will ever hook-up or develop a relationship." Guys never pursue a romantic relationship maybe because they don't have a chance, because their female friend already has a relationship or she just simply does not see romantic potential in him. That's why guys end up being Friend zoned.

I also experienced being friend zoned. The guy I was talking about in the second paragraph, I used to like him. While he was in love with the girl. Well that was before. Now I realized that was stupid. Real stupid. Don't do what the guy did, be best friends with the one your in love with? Noooo. Don't do that if for the sake of being with her is what you want. There are many girls out there. Don't let yourself be friend zoned. You'll just get hurt. Someone is out there will like you and will not friend zone you.

Think positive! Don't think that someone just friend zoned you doesn't mean you're not worth it. You are more than what you think. Someone will be there for you. Someone deserve you. Someone will love you. Just wait. Just like what they've said, "Great things come to those who wait."