Blogpost #4: First love

First love, the one that you first truly have feelings for. The person who is always and will be the first person you truly fell in love with. Your first love will be one who will be the hardest to get over, the one who can make you smile without any reason. The one that you'll never forget even though everything is over between the two of you.

I read an article entitled, "The Power of First Loves" by Wendy Atterberry. On her article it says that when we experience something, like one that reminds us of our first love, dopamine and norepinephrine are chemicals from our brain that are released if we experience our "firsts". These chemicals are freed and the memories tat we have from that relationship is triggered. She also said that we can even assign the new person with the characteristics of our exes. It's called "Transference." Not only the characteristics, even your old feelings, motivations and expectations are revived.

"Many people really don't truly get over their first loves." Says Atterberry. We really don't get over them. Even though years have passed we could still remember the moments that we are with them. They made a huge impact on us because they were the one where we had our "firsts" and because they are our first love.

In another article entitled, "Adolescents in love: What makes a first love special?" By Brandon Warren. It said here that, compared looking at photographs of a friend, looking photos of your loved one generate activation in processing regions in the brain. These areas are similar to those found active under the influence of cocaine.

"The first experience of passionate love can be overwhelming and quickly turn into the most important thing in a teenager's life." Says Warren. I agree with this statement, because everyone experience having their first love and this is one of the most unforgettable moments in our life.

When we fall in love the second and third time, these feeling are more familiar, easier to control, and will be a result of less overwhelming experience. Never forget your first love. We experienced how to love through them, we experienced our "firsts" with them.

Blogpost #3: Love at first sight

Love at first sight is it true love? or just false ideas? Most people who fall in love at the first sight sometimes think that "she's the one." or "he's my soul mate." 

I read an article entitled, "Love at first sight may have a biological basis" by Laura Schwecherl. According to this article, men tend to experience love at first sight than women does. Also, people can be more prone to love at first sight when they're younger.

"But it's unclear how often love at first sight turns into a successful partnership." Says Schwecherl. It's unclear for me, because you can't fall in love with someone you just saw. Maybe just a crush or he or she just caught you attention or maybe just because of his or her looks you'll notice her. I also think that love at  first sight is just an expression used because you saw a handsome guy or a beautiful lady then later on you'll forget that you are attracted to someone.

In another article entitled, "Is There Love at First Sight?" by Elliot D. Cohen, Ph. D. It is said that we really can't reason out that we could be in love with just a sight of the person without knowing them. Now, the idea of love at first acquaintance, this is where after the first meeting, you passionately, madly, and enthusiastically say to yourself that she is the one, she is the one whom I want to spend the rest of my life.

''in some cases, when we get to know others whom we admire from a distance, we may even come to regard them as downright repulsive." I really do agree with the 'love at first acquaintance' how would you like someone if you don't know his or her personality. What if you are admiring someone from a far and then you get to know him or her. The bad thing is he or she has no manners and this turned you off? Would you still call it 'love at first sight'? For me falling in love with a person is when you've been with him or her. Maybe, on a date. You'll know his or her personality through this and you'll already know for yourself if she is the one you want to be with.

Love at first sight or Love at first acquaintance. Either way, you will still get to know the person that got your attention. Well, of course you'll have to approach her. Do what you have to do! Don't be nervous, go on a date and get to know her.

Blogpost #2: Unrequited Love

There's a boy. And there's a girl. The boy is in love with the girl and the girl, however doesn't feel the same way. What do we get? Unrequited love or one-sided love may be the saddest thing about humanity. As humans we lack the capacity to give and receive love when it's right in front of us.

I found an article, "Pain of Unrequited Love Afflicts the Rejecter, Too." There are two sides of unrequited love, first would be "the would - be lover" and "the rejecter" both sides shows pain surprisingly, the rejecter often suffers just as much as the rejected. Why? For me it's a risk to take so that you can tell your feelings to the person you like or love. Risks that cannot be undone, like risking your friendship for you to tell what you feel about him/her and You feel guilty because you'll hurt his/her feelings.

"We rarely hear about the agony of those who are the target of an unwanted love," according to Dr. Roy Baumeister, a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University. I agree with Baumeister. The rejector will always feel bad for the pursuer because she dumped him. She doesn't know how to say 'No' to the pursuer without hurting his feelings, she will always feel guilty because of that.

 In another article entitled "Unrequited Love: Crushin' On or Crushed By You?" by Dr. Helen Lee Lin. It was said that admitting romantic feelings would change things between the pursuer and the rejector. Researchers made a study on who had either rejected a friend romantically (rejectors) or who had been rejected by a friend (pursuer). The study showed that the long-term friendship would still be friends after one confessed to him or her, the short-term relationships ended their friendship after an unrequited confession.

"possibility of losing a good friendship, the sting of rejection may be more acute when coming from someone close to us." says Dr.Helen. When you are confessing to a friend that you like him or her, You should always think that you are taking your friendship at risk. Well, if he or she feels the same way about you, good for you! but, if he or she doesn't feel the same way. Always think that someone is there for you. And I think that you should still continue your friendship.

Don't stress yourself just because you've been rejected, enjoy your life. You'll still meet other people besides him or her/ For now, be a better person for yourself. Take care of yourself, and Love yourself, then you'll meet the person that you deserve in the near future.

Blogpost #1: Long distance relationship

Some people say that Long Distance Relationships (better known as LDRs) never work. Some say it does. They say that it never work because of the distance between them. Others say they can still make it work even though distance keeps them apart. They say, "What's the use of Skype?," "We can still text and call each other even if we're far away from each other." Does long-distance relationships' really going to work?

I've read this article about the The evolution of long distance relationships by Caroline Tiger. It shows here how people back in the prehistoric times communicate with their partners. There is "The Homing Couple" here. In Ancient Greece, they use homing pigeons to send letters to their partners if they're far away from each other. "The Postal Couple", The very first postal service is developed in China around 900 B.C., giving couples everywhere a way to communicate but response takes time. The latest are the, "The Social Networking Couples," " The Text-Crazy Couples," "The Multimedia Couples," and many more. The way of communication on the said couples are the latest technology today, like Laptops, Tablets and Smart phones.

Dr. Crystal Jiang and Dr. Jeffrey Hancock wanted to prove the positive side of long-distance relationships. They asked those who were in a long-distance and geographically close relationships to report their daily interactions for a week. They had to report on how much they shared about themselves, and how intimate they are.

 “One strategy is to maintain constant communication, such as video chat, texting, instant messaging and letters," Jiang said. You shouldn't miss a day not talking to your partner. As much as possible send him/her texts, video chats or letters. So even though you're far away, you can still keep in touch with each other with the help of today's technology.

I read an article entitled Long-Distance Relationships Are Not So Bad... Now. In this article it is indicated here that long-distance relationships can really work thanks to the technology around us. From writing letters that would take months to be received to Live chatting through skype or facebook. 

Nicholas Ferroni states that, "Technology really made long-distance relationships more tolerable and possible." Today we're in the modern era, we could communicate with our partners through text, calls, facebook, twitter, skype and many more. We really don't have any reason not to keep in touch with our partners. But what if we don't have this things today? It might take two months to receive a response from your initial letter or It might not even reach the destination of the letter that you sent.

Long Distance Relationships can still work, thanks to today's technology. As they've said, "Communication is the Key!" It's already bad enough that you're apart so use the resources around you to keep in touch with each other. And remember that the distance isn't forever. You fell in love with your partner in the first place and remember all those good times that you've spent together.