Chapter 3

CHAPTER 3

SUMMARY, CONCLUSIONS, AND RECOMMENDATIONS

Summary

This paper is an effort to find out what are the aspects of love through psychological and scientific perspective.

The research design used in this study is the descriptive research method wherein data from  the articles of different authors and the studies found online were used to answer the research question posed. The research findings are the following:

1. There are many beliefs in love. Generations have passed but still traditions and beliefs are still there. In the Philippines many traditions and beliefs are practiced through the years. 

2. Traditions in the Philippines like, Serenade is practiced. When a guy courts a girl, he will go to the house of the girl and sing a song for her to mark the start of his courtship.

CONCLUSIONS

Based on the findings of the study, the following conclusions are drawn:

1. Though the said beliefs are still practiced, other people don't believe in this anymore. Thinking that it's just a waste of time.

RECOMMENDATIONS

After drawing the conclusions of the study, the researchers hereby make the following suggestions/recommendations:

1. The elderly still wants these beliefs to be practiced because it shows the effort of Filipinos on how they'll cherish their loved ones.

REFERENCES

Lawrence R. Samuel "America's Love Affair with the Supernatural"
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychology-yesterday/201305/americas-love-affair-the-supernatural

 Martha Peaslee Levine "Living the Fairy tales."
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-write-health/201104/living-the-fairy-tale

Bjarne Holmes " Danger: Beware of the Soul Mate Fallacy"
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-the-numbers/201202/danger-beware-the-soul-mate-fallacy

Laura Schaefer "Love Superstitions and their origins"
http://www.match.com/magazine/article/13027/8-Love-Superstitions-And-Their-Origins/

Sasha Manuel "Traditions in Philippine Courtship"
http://www.blisstree.com/2006/07/10/mental-health-well-being/traditions-in-philippine-courtship-45/

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Chapter 2

Discussion

What are the different aspects of love from a psychological and scientific perspective?

I. Definition of love

Love when defined as a phrase, according to the Merriam - Webster Dictionary (a) "strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties" ; (b) "attraction based on sexual desire :  affection and tenderness felt by lovers" ; (c) "affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests"

(http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/love)

II. Superstitious belief in love

A. Superstitions

There are many superstitious beliefs in love, and some people really believe that it's true. Many generations have passed but still this traditions and beliefs are still here.

An article is written by Laura Schaefer entitled, "Love Superstitions and their origins." This article states the different origins of superstitions. Like, throwing coins in a well and making a wish and Kissing at Midnight on New Year's Eve. Many of this superstitions are believed by our Grandparents and still are followed by couples or even single people all over the world.

Schaefer says, "They offer the comfort of believing we can offset the chance of unwanted outcomes and increase our chances of future good."
(http://www.match.com/magazine/article/13027/8-Love-Superstitions-And-Their-Origins/)

B. Serenade

Girls this days would still like a guy to serenade them if he is courting her. It's a sign of effort for her to see that the guy is willing to sing for her even though his voice is not that good. In the Philippines it has been a tradition to most of the Filipinos.

An article written by Sasha Manuel entitled, "Traditions in Philippine Courtship." It is stated here that Serenade or Harana is armed with a guitar, the suitor and can be also accompanied by his friends goes to the girls house, standing right in front of the window and starts singing for her, this marks the start of courtship.

Manuel says, "Our culture is quite conservative especially in the olden days it has been passed on over the years."
(http://www.blisstree.com/2006/07/10/mental-health-well-being/traditions-in-philippine-courtship-45/)
III. Aspects of love in psychological and scientific perspective
A. Psychological Perspective

Many people fall in love, Love is a basic human emotion, understanding on how and why it happens is not necessarily easy.


An article written by Kendra Cherry entitled, "Theories of Love." This article states the four major theories of love that explain love and other emotional attachments. First of is, Liking vs. Loving. Second, Compassionate vs. Passionate Love.

1. Liking vs. Loving

A psychologist named Zick Rubin said that romantic love has three elements: attachments, intimacy and caring. These scales provided support for his conception of love.

2. Compassionate vs. Passionate Love

According to Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, compassionate love usually develops out of mutual understanding and respect for one another. While, Passionate Love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection.

Cherry says, "for a long time, many people suggested that love was simply something that science couldn't understand."
http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/theoriesoflove.htm

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Chapter 1:

Introduction

A. Background of the Study

People think that love is supernatural. Thinking that you can experience love and you'll feel like that feeling is supernatural. Lawrence R. Samuel wrote an article called, "America's Love Affair with the Supernatural." In this article Lawrence discusses that most Americans believe in the paranormal and supernatural beliefs which is proven by polls and surveys. They have a long love affair with the supernatural, So why are they interested in things that are not real and things that we can't even see, hear or touch?

Lawrence says, "these common beliefs and sacred values are essential in binding us together as a society because they help us to see ourselves connected to each other at a deeper level."
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychology-yesterday/201305/americas-love-affair-the-supernatural)

The idea of love is somehow related to fairy tales. Why? People want to have their own Prince Charming. They want to have their own "Happy Ending." Martha Peaslee Levine wrote the article entitled, "Living the Fairy tales." She said that she isn't trying to be depressing in her article but rather realistic. She is states here that in real life we don't have fairy tales, we don't have happy endings but rather we have life's up and downs. Also she says that we can discover the aspects of fairy tale in our own lives. 

Levine says,  "I wrote about value. We often equate our value with how much money we're making or whether we're making other people happy or any number of qualities. So, that is the first writing prompt-how do you value yourself? Others? Journal about what you value in yourself and in life."
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-write-health/201104/living-the-fairy-tale)

People base their love in romantic movies. Couples wants to have relationships like in what we see in the movies. Peter G. Stromberg wrote an article entitled, "Romantic Realism and Romantic Relationships." In this article it is said that romantic realism can influence you into thinking that this should happen in real life. Also, it is a perfected images of our lives.

Peter G. Stromberg stated that, "I suspect that romantic movies does in fact have some strong effects on us, but these effects occur more at the level of emotions than thoughts." 

(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sex-drugs-and-boredom/201010/romantic-realism-and-romantic-relationships)

People believe in supernatural things related to love like destiny. Bjarne Holmes wrote an article called, " Danger: Beware of the Soul Mate Fallacy" This research says that the belief in destiny can be harmful to us especially our relationships. It is also stated that If you look at a perspective that you two are going to end up together or not you are more likely to see negative things in your relationship as an indicator to tell you that you haven't found your special someone that is destined for you. 

Holmes says, "Research shows that people in relationships who have a "work it through" mentality will cope much better when trials come and that the relationship will stand a better chance of long-term survival"

(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-the-numbers/201202/danger-beware-the-soul-mate-fallacy)

The researcher observed that many aspects of love that people consider as supernatural are really not. A problem that the researcher can derive is that people always get their hopes up then end up being disappointed and miserable.They'll stop believing and they'll start thinking that everyone will always make them like their not worth it and no one will take them seriously.

With these concepts and perspectives it came to the mind of the researcher and idea that love is somehow supernatural and magical. Wherein people this days believe in movies, fairy tales and destiny. Through explaining each subject the readers could have an insight why love is supernatural.

B. Statement of the Problem

This study aims to answer the question:

1. What are the different aspects of love from a psychological and scientific perspective?

C. Significance of the study

Couples. This research paper will help couples on how supernatural things related to love could affect their relationship. This too can help them on how they'll get through hardships in their relationship.

Future Researchers. This research paper would be useful to future researchers who are making studies about supernatural aspects of love. This would also be a help for their studies.

D. Scope and Delimitation

This study is focused on how to explain supernatural aspects of love from a scientific perception. Types of relationship would also be discussed in this paper as the researcher wants to inform the readers more about relationships and love.

Due to time constraints, this study will not discuss non-romantic topics due to lack of factual and reliable sources.

E. Materials and Methods

The information posted in this paper are gathered from articles online that is related to love and relationships. It will focus on relationships and supernatural beliefs in them. There will be a lot of information written through this paper to make readers learn more about relationships and love.

F. Definition of Terms

1. Destiny. The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one's lot.

2. Fairy tales. a children's story about magical and imaginary beings and lands.

3. Romantic Movies. are romantic love stories recorded in visual media for broadcast in theaters and on television that focus on passion, emotion and the affectionate romantic involvement of the main characters and the journey that their genuinely strong, true and pure romantic love takes them through dating, courtship or marriage.

4. Supernatural. relating to an order of existence beyond the visible observable universe; especially :  of or relating to God or a god, demigod, spirit, or devil